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Toy/Gear Play

Introducing the Toybag guides from the scene's top educators. Sturdy little 4x6" quick reference guides you can drop in your toybag! Each of these books contains at least as much information as you could get from a full day's workshop on the topic taught by one of the leaders in the scene - people like Jay Wiseman, Janet Hardy, Jack Rinella and Spectrum.

Toybag Guide to Dungeon Emergencies & Supplies
by Jay Wiseman (B824)
A workshop in a book including the 30 most common BDSM emergencies, dealing with emotional emergencies like panic attacks and escalating arguments, your dungeon first aid kit. More >>>
Toybag Guide to Clips and Clamps
by Jack Rinella (B825)
A workshop in a book including types of clips and clamps, where to place your clamps, advanced techniques, and psychological issues. More >>>

Toybag Guide to Canes and Caning
by Janet W Hardy (B826)
A workshop in a book including cane styles and materials, techniques, history and glamour of the scene, first aid and safety, and maintaing canes. More >>>
Toybag Guide to Hot Wax and Temperature Play
by Spectrum (B827)
A workshop in a book including types of wax and candles, fact and fiction about hot wax, dealing with body hair, and special wax techniques. More >>>

The Beauty of Fetish Midori's The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage
Japanese rope bondage is an art which has developed over centuries of martial and erotic practice. Midori shows step by step how to achieve beautiful and exciting Japanese bondage. More >>>
Erotic Bondage Handbook by Jay Wiseman (A962)
For years there has been an obvious need (and a lot of popular demand) for a basic handbook on bondage, especially rope bondage and knot tying. More >>>

The Beauty of Fetish Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment (B205)
This book has well-organized anatomical information, equipment details, and "recipes" for Cock and Ball Torture scenarios. It's very thorough and very comfortable to read. More >>>
The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex (B261)
Dildos and harnesses are purchased and used worldwide by a wide range of people - women and men; singles and couples; gay, straight, and bi. The Ultimate Guide to Strap-on Sex explains how to choose and use these sex aids and includes ways to enhance sexual experiences. More >>>

The Beauty of Fetish Flogging by Joseph W. Bean (B270)
Possibly the most popular activity in the erotic power exchange lexicon, flogging offers sensations ranging from gentle massage through tearing agony. Long-time leatherman Joseph W. Bean explains how to choose a flogger, negotiate a scene, read your partner's mental and physical state, etc. More >>>
S/M 101 by Jay Wiseman (A346)
This 245-page book, written by a heterosexual man who is a long-term veteran of the American SM scene, goes into depth in the attempt to present a comprehensive introduction SM and all of its many facets. More >>>

Leather and Latex Care (A581) 
Written by a fellow member of the leather community, Kelly J. Thibault. She presents an in-depth report on the subject of processing and caring for leather. Some of the chapters include: The History of Leather, The Tanning Process, Basic Care for Leather, A Short History of Rubber, etc. More >>>

Intimate Invasions by M.R.Strict (B948)
The title says it all! Klismaphilia - enema play - is one of the last taboos of kinky sex, yet this style of play can be erotic, intense and safe. Part erotic reading, part how-to, this book is sure to please and educate all enema enthusiasts. More >>>


Sex Tips

Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink by Midori
Tired of standing on the sexual sidelines? Wonder what it's like to be a real "kink" adventurer? Let the world famous Midori take you by the hand (or by the collar if that's your pleasure) and lead you into the thick of it. More >>>

Male Erotic Massage (C141)
Including the sexual and the spiritual, Male Erotic Massage teaches about touching men. Over 200 photographs reveal both the how-to and the beauty of the male body embracing the male body. by Kenneth Ray Stubbs, Ph.D. More >>>
Erotic Massage by Kenneth Ray Stubbs, Ph.D. (C142)
Over 300,000 copies sold, Erotic Massage presents long, flowing strokes for the whole body, including female and male genitals. This was the first massage book to explicitly illustrate genital massage. More >>>

Ancient Techniques for Modern Lovers (C144)
Drawing on a rich variety of cultures and eras, Secret Sexual Positions provides the methods that can open us to forgotten or undiscovered sensations and feelings, leading to a more profound and pleasurable sexuality. by Kenneth Ray Stubbs, Ph.D. More >>>
Kiss of Desire Oral Sex for Men and Women (C143)
An illustrated, full-color guide to the pleasures of oral lovemaking by the popular author of Erotic Massage and Secret Sexual Positions. More >>>

The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue
How to Go Down on a Man and Give Him Mind-Blowing Pleasure. Sex educator Violet Blue tells you all you need to know to give and receive exquisite oral pleasure. More >>>
The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus by Violet Blue
The complete self-help book on cunnilingus for everyone who would like to enjoy cunnilingus—women and men! The complete step-by-step guide to fellatio for everyone—men and women! More >>>

The Whole Lesbian Sex Book by Felice Newman
Finally, a sex guide for all of us. Whether you are lesbian, bisexual, butch, femme, androgynous, or transgendered - and even if you have just discovered that you want to have sex with a woman - this book is for you. More >>>
Tricks to Please a Woman by Jay Wiseman (B360)
Bestselling sex author/educator Jay Wiseman created his Tricks series of books of "how to make good sex better" nearly a decade ago. They've been perennial best-sellers in erotic boutiques and adult stores worldwide ever since. More >>>

The Multi-Orgasmic Man (B048)
This book is potentially one of the most useful and important items that we sell. In Eastern Taoist/Tantric sexual practice, the multi-orgasmic potential of all men has been known, understood, practiced, and refined over many centuries. More >>>
Tickle Your Fancy: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Self-Pleasure (B239)
The publisher writes: A "how to" masturbation guide for women... and curious men. Learn more than 30 masturbation techniques. More than 60 diagrams and illustrations. More >>>

A Hand in the Bush - The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting by Deborah Addington (A672)
"Fisting is an incredible experience, not only physically, but mentally and emotionally." This book thoroughly details all the ins-and-outs of giving and receiving vaginal orgasms with the fisted hand. More >>>
The Guide to Getting it On! (A791)
America's Coolest and Most Informative Book about Sex for Adults of All Ages.

Remember the "Joy of Sex"? It was a great book, and very progressive in its time. More >>>

How To Enlarge Your Penis (A675)
Magazine format. 48 pages including cover. (Revised 1988 edition; orig pub 1970, California Exotic Novelties, Inc.) Its author doesn't guarantee any products or practices described, but we can guarantee that seeing the many close-up photos of unusually large penises will definitely expand something... More >>>

Soaked! A Watersports Handbook for Men
by Joseph W. Bean
Erotic stories of piss play and guidelines to make getting soaked or satisfying your thirst safer, wilder and more enjoyable. More >>>

Anal Tips
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men by Bill Brent
From the publishers of the best-selling The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women comes a companion book specifically for men. More >>>
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
This award winning book offers comprehensive information on all aspects of anal eroticism and health. More >>>

Anal Pleasure and Health (A341)
This 270-page book by Dr. Jack Morin is "the first comprehensive, reliable source of information and suggestions for the millions of men and women who want to include the anal area in their sensual and erotic activities." More >>>
Trust by Bert Herrman (A604)
This is a special interest book about the practice that is commonly known as "fisting" (advanced anal sex play) written by a gay man with gay readers in mind. Details techniques, issues, and safety concerns. Proceed with caution!


How to be a ...
Exhibitionism for the Shy by Carol Queen (B848)
Discover and awaken your inner sexual persona! This instructive, inspiring, and comprehensive sex manual manages to be simultaneously hot, dirty, and nasty -- and politically correct! More >>>
Woof! by Michael Daniels (B753)
Woof! leads the way in informing and enlightening readers about the realm of human pups and their Handlers. Michael Daniels' book offers a wonderful, first-hand look at the hows and whys of human pups as well as guidance for their care and training. More >>>

Painfully Obvious by Robert Davolt (B752)
"Painfully Obvious" is a collection of 40 provocative essays by the former publisher of Drummer magazine and popular San Francisco leather columnist Robert Davolt. More >>>
The Lazy Crossdresser... by Charles Anders (B280)
Charles Anders, a writer and crossdresser of many years' experience, gives you the skills and confidence you need to crossdress as much - or as little - as you want! More >>>

Mistress Manual by Mistress Lorelei (A478)
"The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance." A great book from an experienced practitioner. More >>>
The Master's Manual by Jack Rinella (A440)
A collection of reflections on "Mastery" which makes some effort to be "pansexual," but is really more focused on the gay leather scene. The Whys and Hows of power-sexuality are discussed in various chapters. More >>>

The Beauty of Fetish The Compleat Slave by Jack Rinella (B312)
Jack Rinella, author of The Master's Manual, continues his in-depth exploration and discussion of dominant/submissive relationships with his latest book, The Compleat Slave. More >>>
The Sexually Dominant Woman Workbook (A345)
Billed as "A Workbook for Nervous Beginners," this 60-page book offers a light-hearted, simple introduction to dominance for women. More >>>

I Was A Teenage Dominatrix by Shawna Kenney

Ride shotgun with Shawna Kenney as she transforms herself from young, broke, and miserable to an educated, confident woman after answering one newspaper ad: "Get Paid for Being a Bitch." More >>>
Erotic Surrender: The Sensual Joys of Female Submission by Claudia Varrin (B124)
In this new book, Claudia Varrin, the author of The Art of Sensual Female Dominance (above), explores the other side of the dominant/submissive equation. More >>>

The Compleat Spanker by Lady Green (A673)
"A valuable resource for new explorers, seasoned players, and open-minded non-participants alike." Headings such as "Anatomy of a Spankee", "Positions", "Communication and Mood", "Tips, Tricks, and Fun Things to Try" etc. More >>>
The Loving Dominant by John Warren, PhD (A524)
"Everything you need to know about an infamous sexual variation, and an unspoken type of love. ...A long-time player in the dominance/submission scene guides readers through this rarely seen world. More >>>

The Beauty of Fetish Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual
This manual offers expert advice on the training of a slave. Great ideas about voice commands, body positioning, what to look for in a submissive. More >>>
The Beauty of Fetish Training with Miss Abernathy (A963)
50 transformative lessons for the erotic slave... the fundamentals of everything from providing sexual pleasure to sorting laundry to planning a worldwide tour with Master or Mistress. An invaluable reference guide for slave and Owner alike!

The New Bottoming Book by Easton and Hardy (A445)
Almost a decade ago, the first Bottoming Book taught tens of thousands of people that bottoming - being a submissive, masochist, slave boy or girl, or other BDSM recipient - is as much an art as topping. More >>>
Becoming a Slave by Jack Rinella (C151)
Becoming a Slave is a complete, authoritative, and well-documented book on the process of finding and submitting to a dominant. More >>>


Partners in Power by Jack Rinella (B709)
Is it possible to form lasting, healthy, loving relationships that are based on power, control and pain? Of course, says Jack Rinella, author of The Master's Manual and The Compleat Slave. More >>>
One of our best Instructional Books Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns (A562)
One of the better instructional/overview S/M books, first added to our inventory by popular demand after being discussed extensively in various electronic forums.
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Leathersex Q&A by Joseph Bean (A579)
Here, the author of Leathersex becomes the Ann Landers of Leather, answering scores of actual letters sent to him over several years of his career as a lecturer, columnist, and editor of a gay men's leather magazine. More >>>
Consensual Sadomasochism by Henkin/Holiday (A578) - 17.95
New, second edition. Subtitled, "How to talk about it and How to do it safely", by William A. Henkin and Sybil Holiday. Covers the language, the demystification of S/M, psychological power, safety, and theatrics.
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The Beauty of Fetish Safe, Sane, and Consensual and Fun by John Warren PhD (B355)
You'll get the benefits of Dr. Warren's 20-plus years of experience to help you make sure you and your partner will stay safe as you explore uncharted sexual terrain. A classic of the genre! More >>>
Sensuous Magic by Patrick Califia (A522)
Patrick Califia's classic guide to S/M for novices and experienced players alike. Completely revised and updated. For all couples interested in bondage, S/M, dominance and submission - women and men of all sexual orientations and genders. More >>>

Different Loving by Brame/Brame/Jacobs (A418)
This 539-page book includes discussions, descriptions and interviews designed to illuminate the actual practice of various types of kinky sex, with an emphasis on S&M/B&D, as the subtitle suggests. More >>>


Sex Cultures/Resources
Please Understand Me II by David Keirsey (B935)
For the past 20 years Keirsey has continued to investigate personality differences -- to refine his theory of the four temperaments and to define the facets of character that distinguish one from another. More >>>
It's Not About the Whip by Sensuous Sadie (B728)
I first started exploring Dominance and submission with my friend Bailey. We went camping one summer in the White Mountains of New Hampshire, and in the dark of the tent we shared our secret fantasies. I told him about wanting to be controlled in a sexual manner, although I didn't really know what that meant. More >>>

The Kinky Girl's Guide to Dating (Luna Grey) (B849)
When the guy your mother warned you about is exactly the guy you're looking for, the usual rules of dating aren't going to help you out much! Learn from one girl's mistakes. More >>>
The Bride Wore Black Leather by Drew Campbell
How do you introduce your slave to your mother? What address do you put on a letter to your brother and his male lover? What's the best way to handle it if you mistakenly call your transgendered friend by the wrong pronoun? More >>>

Modern Primitives (A369)
This 210-page book from RE/Search Publications in San Francisco documents the activities and accomplishments of a growing subculture of body- modification enthusiasts in the USA, Europe, Australia and other places. More >>>
Leatherfolk edited by Mark Thompson (B315)
Since its publication a decade ago, this Lambda Literary Award-nominated book has become a classic must-read on the shelf of books adressing human sexuality and identity. More >>>

The Ethical Slut by Liszt/Easton (A631)
The Ethical Slut eloquently discusses the numerous alternatives to the often unrealistic ideal of lifetime monogamy. More >>>
Sex Disasters and How to Survive Them by Moser & Hardy (B320)
Some sex disasters make you laugh. Some make you cringe. Some send you running for help. And here's the place to learn about all of them… a jammed handcuff, a short-circuited vibrator, a cop at the door, etc. More >>>

The Lazy Crossdresser... by Charles Anders (B280)
Charles Anders, a writer and crossdresser of many years' experience, gives you the skills and confidence you need to crossdress as much - or as little - as you want! More >>>
Leather Contest Guide (B125)
This is truly the complete guide to the leather contest circuit. Written by Guy Baldwin, one of the most famous names in the leather community and a former titleholder, this book details the keys to a successful leather contest. More >>>

Leathersex by Joseph Bean (A447)
Subtitle: "A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious Player." A more technical, practically-oriented overview of the range of possibilities and options in SM play. More >>>
The Beauty of Fetish Urban Aboriginals by Geoff Mains (A593)
This innovative book pioneered in sensitively exploring and celebrating leathersexuality. As relevant today as when it was written 20 years ago, Urban Aboriginals is an intimate view of the gay male leather community. More >>>

Ties That Bind by Guy Baldwin (A347)
In a series of essays focusing primarily on the gay male S/M scene, Mr. Baldwin (a former International Mr. Leather title-holder) offers commentaries and advice on the "SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style." More >>>
X-Rated Bible (B697)
Incest, rape, adultery, exhibitionism, prostitution, homosexuality, abortion, mate swapping, bestiality -- it's all there in the book held sacred by three of the world's major religions. Originally published to reveal the hypocrisy of fundamentalists' attempts to censor and suppress... More >>>

Leatherman's Handbook by Larry Townsend
"Larry Townsend's Leatherman's Handbook was an immediate cult classic when it first came out in 1972. It's publication was the first step in bringing leather sex into the open in the gay world. More >>>

The Leatherman's Handbook II by Larry Townsend
A kind of "sequel" to the original cult classic on gay leather. The LHII appeared in the mid-80's and was later updated in a second edition, primarily so that more current information on HIV could be included. More >>>

Beneath the Skins by Ivo Dominguez (A446)
This book takes a look at the emerging Leather/SM/fetish community, and discusses some of the emerging political and social trends in that community's struggle to define itself and its purposes, goals, standards, and identity. More >>>




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